Emotional wounds are painful experiences, usually from your childhood. They often shape your adult personality, who you are and how you face adversity.
Here are 20 things a person of childhood emotional injustice grow up with –
1. Asking Questions Even When he/she Know the Answer –
If they have ever been berated, they may doubt themselves, even when they know they are right. Due to this, you may find that they ask a lot of questions.
2. They say ‘sorry’ more often than they say hello –
Children of injustice may feel as though they were never able to do anything right. In turn, they always apologize, even when they didn’t do any wrong.
3. Second Guessing Everything –
When you have lived in the chaotic world of emotional misconduct, you never truly believe in anything. Instead, you may always be in fear of something bad happening.
4. They Are Tough, But Also Very Sensitive-
During a hard childhood, they learn to be tough, because they have to be. However, they also experience a number of emotions at a young age, causing them to be especially sensitive to their own emotions as well as others.
5. They Are Indecisive –
It’s harder to make decisions if you spent your childhood hearing that you weren’t good enough.
6. They Are Self-Disciplined –
In order to combat a parent or caregiver that constantly was searching for what they hadn’t done, or had done wrong, they may become a perfectionist. They are timely, clean, and organized. Many victims of misconduct learn to over-do because they want to please people.
7. They May Be Sensitive to Loud Noises –
If they have been raised in fear, they may be used to being yelled at, and associate loud noises with abuse.
8. Victims of Emotional Misconduct Are Often Introverted –
So many victims of abuse may be afraid of contact and communicate with people, and can sometimes try to distance themselves as much as possible.
9. They Have a Defensive Nature –
They may perceive people as negative or offensive because of their previous abuse.
10. Having Attachment Issues –
With all the childhood neglectance and abuse they have very low self esteem and always fear that if they attach with someone as a friend or lover, they’ll leave or abandon them
11. Issues With Eye Contact –
When speaking, they may become anxious to the point that they can’t even make eye contact with the person they are speaking with. And you’ll often find them playing with their finger, hem of their clothes, hair or even some object – these are acts of low self esteem and trust issues in others and also within.
12. Running Away From Conflict –
Rather than face conflict, which gives them immense anxiety, it feels easier to just leave the situation entirely.
13. Having Issues Getting Close to Others –
If they have been emotionally manipulated by a parent or guardian, they may not especially like people. Due to this, getting close to others isn’t something they take lightly.
14. They Are Quiet –
They may not feel as though they have a voice after they have been made to feel so small and errant their whole life.
15. They Can’t Take a Compliment –
When someone tells them how wonderful and beautiful they are, they may doubt your words, because they can’t see themselves as good.
16. They Don’t Feel Valid –
No matter what they do or how much other appreciate them, they always doubt that they are capable of doing it. They are used to of taking negative criticism.
17. They Are Always Nervous –
Everything worries them and makes them nervous. Even at the slightest sign of trouble, they may even feel overwhelmed.
18. They tend to get Angry –
They smile, they laugh, they eat with you but underneath it all, they are angry. Their whole life they sat back and watched an angry person treat them terribly, and in turn, they may have outbursts of anger.
19. Self-Harming Behaviors –
Many emotionally manipulated children will harm themselves. They feel as though they deserve it, and oftentimes these behaviors follow them into adulthood.
20. Constant Mood Swings –
Living with a toxic manipulator can cause them to have a plethora of emotions come at them at random times. This could be due to the manipulated being so used to a number of emotions and hardships. It is just how some people cope.